Mommy day is approaching and unless you live under a rock with NO connection to the world you can’t avoid it. Wait what?? Why  avoid a day dedicated to your Mommy GG? Is that your question? Well my mom is…well the last 4 years I dreaded mother’s day. Folks posting pictures with their moms…UGH I was/am team #overit because I no longer have a mom. Every year it’s like she just passed away and I would silently cry my eyes out all over again, until a small voice said “Shelbey has a mom”Â
Shelbey is the light of my life. Shelbey is where my heart goes when it leaves my chest and she absolutely has a mom. A mom that would find a way to climb to the moon if that would make her happy. A mom who works hard to deserve her adoration. My love for her exceeds that of any other, I dare say it supersedes love of self and because of that Mother’s day is not about me! It’s 100% about her.
You know how you love to sniff a baby? Well my BABY will be 23 and I still love sniffing her..I love her essence and because of that I push my way through the dark cloud that surrounds my heart every May. She reminds me that my job as a mom is the best job ever and I plan to leave lasting memories with her. I love how we have grown to truly love each other’s company. I love that she calls me to ask how to make a meal or if her outfit is right or doing her makeup on facetime while I watch. I am her mom and for that job I will always show up. 
I won’t lie and say my heart doesn’t ache on Mother’s day, but my love for my own kid overpowers all. If you are like me and want to crawl under a rock on Mother’s day. If you have kids of your own, don’t forget they have a mom too AND when all else fails…KNIT lol
GG
Two beautiful ladies! My mom’s long gone, too, but I have my son & daughter-in-law and *they* have a daughter so Mother’s Day is still special for me. I’m glad you have your wonderful daughter as well. Nothing better!
thank you!! enjoy your Mommy’s day!!
<3 this post. Happy Mothers Day to you!
thank you for reading! If it applies happy mother’s day to you too
Gaye, mothers day is that time of the year when it seems the sadness overpowers the gladness. I’m sure you remember me losing my mom in high school. From then til now, the pain still exist. I think losing her at such a tender age makes me question if I would of become a better woman and mother. Today raising 2 boys,I treasure my role as mom, mommy and or momma. These boys rule my world and I wouldn’t have it any other way! So on next Sunday, I will remember mom and I will also embrace the day as I know my mom along with yours is watching down on both of us with a smile!
love you and yes I do remember!
This is BEAUTIFUL! I’m speechless!
thank you
Very nice post. You honor your mother by being a good mother to your daughter!
Thank you for your kind words, most importantly thanks for reading
Such a beautiful post; you are a credit to your mum and your daughter is a credit to you xx
Thank you!!
Thanks for help as M-day approaches for the first time without my Mom who died last week. Once, long ago, I was childless for eleven years and Mother’s Day held a different Type of grief. For now 22 years Mother’s Day has b3n awesome, I have 3 kids, 2 now in college, one home. It didn’t hit me till the first Mother’s Day ad that she was gone. It’s been only a week. But she had Alzheimer’s and I try to remind myself she would not wanted to live like that- it was a blessing and a mercy she passed. So because of your words I will try and justremember, finally I am a Mom too. Thanks.
oh your wound is raw my friend. I am sending a cyber hug your way. The first year I casted on a shawl on her birthday April 29 and was able to finish it by mother’s day. That was the first mother’s day for me and normally I wear what I refer to as my Mommy shawl but this year I am away from home and I didn’t bring it with me. So yes, hold on to the fact that your kids have a mommy too! I pray you find the peace that I am sure your mom has now. It is a cliche to most, but when you have watched them suffer it hold REAL meaning. She is living in you every day! Thanks for reading and sharing!
Hey GG. I lost my mom when I was 27 (she was 49) but I know she is looking down from heaven and seeing everything that is going on. Even 25+ years later she is an integral part of my life and I see her in me all of the time. Thank you for your beautiful post. You are a wonderful person. Xoxo Rose
Thank YOU for sharing, paving the way if you will. I am sure one day it will get easier. Thanks for reading and may your Mom continue to rest in peace
My mother died 4 years ago in April. The love of a mother is different than any love just as it different for anyone else in your life. I talked to my mother every night. We spent 10 minutes talking about our day and sometimes memories of my childhood. I think about her everyday and it brings a smile to my face. Now I take my grandkids shopping for their Mother’s Day gifts so they can have the same memories I have.
Thanks for sharing your memories
lovely post and lovely ladies. Enjoy being a Mom on Mother’s Day!
Thank you
Dearest GG, Although we had never met, that short time that we worked together created such a feeling of kinship and I felt like I had known you for years. One of the things that connected us was the fact that we had both lost our Mothers around the same time. We will always share a special bond because of this. I will be thinking and praying for you on Mother’s Day…praying that you find the strength to press on and that you are comforted by the smile from your daughter. We will get through it; together in spirit. Miss you!
Miss you too! Hugs my friend
Girl, where’s my box of tissues? It’ll be 16 yrs since my moms passed and it feels lije it’s recent. But like you said, we have our kids (grands). I look at my kids and still can’t believe that they are parents. We are truly blessed! In case I don’t get another chance to tell you, HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY, LOVELY LADY! 🌹🌹🌹
Right back at you my friend 😘
I love this, GG! And thank you for writing it. I was feeling some kind of way too. My mom passed two years ago, and my heart still aches. I think I mentioned on your FB post that I made plans to go to MDSW festival without realizing it was Mother’s Day. I had a panic attack for several reasons. 1) I wouldn’t be close to where my mom was; and 2) I didn’t want to leave my girls (adult girls). They reassured me it would be fine if I left for vacation and to enjoy myself. While in Maryland, besides going to the fiber festival, my son drove up from the naval base (over 3hrs) to have lunch and a movie with me. It helped the pain subside a bit. Nothing will every replace our moms, but thank you for reminding me that we are moms too! Hugs to you!!
Lynette, I am so happy you enjoyed yourself. I am sure that is what your mom would have wanted. God bless you.
What a lovely article. It brings another perspective to those of us missing our mothers on Mother’s Day. I am thankful for the daughter I’ve been blessed with who my mother never got to meet. Thank you.
Thanks for reading